One thing you can count on with in the adoption process is there is a lot of waiting. Whether you are doing an international or domestic adoption you will be waiting. Since we are doing a domestic adoption the length of our wait is undetermined. I liken it to going to the doctor. You decide to go to the doctor. You get to the office. You fill out their paperwork. They check your identification and take some money. You wait for them to call your name and then they put you in a tiny room where you know the wait won’t be quite as long but still don’t know when the doctor might come in.
I feel like we are in the tiny room now. We filled out our paper work, did our home study, paid the current fees, completed our profile book and now we are just waiting for a birth mother to pick us. When you are in the tiny room at the doctor’s office you often look around see what is there, think of what you will say when the doctor comes in, try to imagine what the outcome will be but you never really know until they arrive. Just like that I have been making a list of items we will need after the baby comes, thinking about how our life is going to dramatically change with the addition of our Little One and trying not to be anxious about the whole process.
There are days when I envy my friends who are doing international adoptions. They have benchmarks to reach, documents to fill out and the final waiting for the travel approval. They know once they get that it will be time to go get their child. Although very stressful and time-consuming, I wish there was a time frame of when our Little One will join us, but there isn’t. There is just the waiting.
Many people ask me how long it will be and I answer them all the same way. It could be tomorrow or it could be 2 years. So I am preparing like it will be tomorrow but trying to keep my mindset in the fact that it could be a while. This makes getting things done problematic for this procrastinator. I feel rushed to accomplish things for an event that doesn’t have an end yet. So please keep us in your prayers as we wait for our profile to be shown, picked by a birth mother and then one day have our Little One in our arms.
Psalm 27:13-14 I would have despaired unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.
Psalm 31:24 Be strong and let your heart take courage, All you who hope in the LORD.